Last July, Quirky T conducted The Guitar Train off the music track to discuss a pet peeve. I don’t want to have any pet peeves or complain about people or issues but I thought maybe getting this annoyance out to the world would either correct the situation or get it out of my system as an issue and I could make peace with it. The latter occurred after I wrote The Guitar Train stop called “Sports Trash Talking”.
That former annoyance is now a non-issue for me. Unfortunately, I didn’t get the same results from this post. So here’s the post followed by an update.
So my pet peeve is people who feel like they need a consensus to be cold. I’ve often been in situations at a work office or a store where an adult has complained of being cold and then has asked me if I am cold also. No, actually I am not cold; I’m perfectly fine. In fact, I would much rather be cold then hot and sweating. When you’re cold, you can always add more layers of clothing, gloves, and a hat to make yourself warmer. If you’re hot, there’s only some much clothing you can take off. And even then, you’ll probably still be hot and uncomfortable.
When someone is in a house or a car and playing the role of hostess or host, then it is acceptable to ask others if they are cold because an adjustment can be made to the temperature controls to make the temperature more comfortable. In that situation, the need for a consensus is relevant. If the hostess is the only one feeling cold, then she has to be an adult and put up with the discomfort for the sake of her guests. But when you are in a large office building, supermarket, or another place where there is no way to adjust the temperature, then complaining is useless. Do the cold complainers think if they get a majority of people together to agree that it is cold, they can all march over to management and demand a higher temperature that will interfere with the safe management of the office or the products in the store but will make them nice and warm?
It has gotten to the point where when someone asks if I am cold at work, I answer that I am not because I work there every day so I dress accordingly. I don’t understand adults who don’t prepare themselves and then complain every day. If you know you tend to be cold, than dress accordingly. If you know your work atmosphere tends to be cold, than dress accordingly. I have heard people complain about how cold it is in a supermarket when they walk in from 90 degree heat and humidity. First of all, anything is cold compared to 90 degrees. Second of all, I would not want to shop in or buy food from a supermarket that was not air-conditioned in the summer. I would hate to see what the fruits, vegetables, and icing on the cakes look like at temperatures above 70 degrees in a building with all the windows closed. I have seen some customers come prepared for the cold and put on lightweight jackets when they enter the store. They don’t complain; they just come prepared and go about their business of shopping.
If the cold complainers are not trying to gather an army on their side to complain to management about the temperature, then why do they need to know if other people are cold also? Why are they so fearful that they are the only ones who are cold? I have never heard that feeling cold while indoors in air-conditioning for a short period of time is a sign of a serious illness or impending death and should be remedied immediately. If that was true, then I would want a consensus to know it’s not just me and I won’t be “catching my death of cold.”
So I am pleading with adult cold complainers to not act like whiny children and complain to me about something out of my control. No, I don’t know why “they” (the management) keep it so cold. Nor can I walk up to a thermostat and raise the temperature to please you for the few minutes you are in the building. Please don’t bully me into saying I’m cold just because you are. I guess all I can do when asked the irritating question if I am cold also is to reply pleasantly, “No, I’m not but I‘m sorry you are.” Really, everyone, it’s okay to be cold and alone. You’ll survive.
Now the update, the cold people have escalated the issue. As the seasons change, people seem to forget the fact that autumn is supposed to be colder than summer. Yet they still complain that they are cold and they now badger me to be cold also. Recently I have been told by a complete stranger while inside in 70 degrees that I should be wearing a sweater! I was not cold nor did I look like I was cold. I had to plead my case with this stranger that I did not need a sweater because I was actually hot.
A few days after that incident, I was again at work when I sneezed. A woman, a stranger, said she was surprised that I wasn’t sneezing all the time because it is so cold where I work. Again, I had to explain that I was not cold. (I probably sneezed because of dust). This woman then said I SHOULD be cold. Another woman passing by agreed that I should be cold. This is insanity. It’s now to the level where I am told how I should be physically feeling. For the record, and I wish the last time ever, I AM NOT COLD!
Guitar Train passengers, does this situation bother you? Have you ever been asked if you were cold and how did you respond if you weren’t?